“There are reasons why nothing lasts forever”
Title: This Life Is in Your Hands: One Dream, Sixty Acres, and a Family Undone
Author: Melissa Coleman
Source: Review copy provided by publisher
We know all along that Heidi is going to drown. We know all along that this “idyllic” life is not going to survive Lissie’s childhood. Even before the book begins, the publisher’s summary spells it all out. But the journey to this inevitable end is very much worth reading.
Melissa (“Lissie”) Coleman’s memoir recalls the first ten years of her life. It’s the 1970s and her parents, Eliot and Sue, decide to leave their old lives behind and move to a farm in Maine to being homesteading (they purchase land from Helen and Scott Nearing – famous for their own book Living the Good Life). “Lissie” is born shortly after followed by her sister Heidi a few years later. The family spends summers farming and selling their produce with the aid of various apprentices interested in the back to the land movement. The winter is spent trying to survive the harsh Maine weather. They are successful with their organic farming, less so with their family life. Lissie is often ignored and the kids are allowed to run free most of the time.
The tragic event of Heidi’s death that finally breaks the family does not occur until the last 70 pages. The first part of the book describes the life – the reasons for it, the tools and methods, the way it made Lissie feel. At first it seems like a perfect solution to the problems plaguing society. But the work is hard and the family suffers for it.
Although we know it’s coming, Coleman does such a good job dealing with the tragedy and the aftermath that I found myself tearing up, trying to suppress that lump rising up like Lissie. Her father’s anger and stubbornness, her mother’s depression, and her inability to change any of it is heartbreaking. It’s a book that will make you evaluate the important things in life as you reflect on the Coleman’s attempt at homesteading.